Don’t go until you read this 👇 Most people try to “fix” their defensiveness by forcing themselves to stay calm. But defensiveness isn’t a behaviour issue, it’s an emotional wound issue. That urge to explain, to justify, to shut down, to get sharp… That’s not about her tone or her words. That’s the part of you that learned long ago that mistakes = danger. So when she’s trying to connect, your nervous system is trying to protect. And suddenly you’re fighting battles she isn’t even in. Here’s the